Even in the midst of abundance, we are hungry. We will go to great lengths to try to fill the void; violence, overeating, insatiable consumerism. Minds much brighter than my own have pondered the ills and misdeeds of mankind and have wondered what could possibly be done to better our circumstances. In my heart I believe the key is right before us, echoing down through the ages in the wisdom of the sages. Lasting Peace can and will never be brought about on Earth by violence. Violence only begets suffering. Each person must make and effort to change themselves and I believe the key is what I call the "perfect pause", the practice of meditation.
Science is catching up with the sages. Today we don't have to look far to learn of meditation's well-documented benefits; stress reduction, aids the healing process, it can even help you recover from addiction. Meditation can help with all of these conditions and so much more. You may begin to practice meditation for a specific reason but if you make it a part of your daily routine you will start to experience untold benefits in all areas of your life. I know this first-hand.
Those who knew me as a child would describe me as the stereotypical bully magnet; very shy, thin and sporting the trademark coke-bottle glasses. But I also had an insatiable curiosity and people seemed to like me so I got along just fine. My grades were stellar, practically straight A's until the ninth grade. In the fall of 1985 I entered Eastmoor High School and everything changed. The school at that time was conducive to almost every illegal activity imaginable but definitely not to academics. It was overrun with gangs, drugs were sold openly in the hallways and violence was rampant.
By my sophomore year the situation worsened and the adults had lost nearly all control. Point blank, if gang members saw something that they wanted they took it. That included jackets in the wintertime or even the very shoes off of your feet. For the students it became the survival of the fittest. In the summer of 1986 I was determined that next year things would be different, I got contacts and started lifting weights. By my sophomore year I had gained about 30 lbs of muscle and in an attempt to fit in decided to adopt the "if you can't beat them join them" philosophy. People I knew didn't recognize me. By my Junior year, I could bench-press nearly 300lbs and was fully assimilated. I had become a product of my environment.
Those last three years of High School I tread a treacherous path and could seem to find no way back. Towards the end of my senior year I began to experience depression and panic attacks for seemingly no reason. I began to feel heavy and macabre. A coldness had me in its grasp and I felt paralyzed, watching the world pass by. That year, I cut classes a total of 112 days and somehow still managed to graduate towards the top of my class. In my heart, I knew if something didn't change my future would be bleak at best. So the search began. I spent countless hours reading self-help books, some of which were slightly beneficial but they were only a temporary fix. After almost a year of searching I came across a small book on meditation and started the practice that changed my life absolutely.
In the beginning the changes were almost imperceptible. The very first thing I remember was the desire to take long walks in the woods. Since I was a product of the inner city, this wasn't easy but I got into my car and drove forty-five minutes to the nearest nature trail. It was the only place that offered me solace. Next came only what I can describe as a softening of the heart. I started feeling empathy towards others, writing poetry and devouring any book I could get my hands on. Slowly and steadily my situation began to improve.
Twelve years later, honestly, the change in me is so complete that the person I once was is a stranger. Although my life is far from a fairy-tale, I realize now that every moment is a thing to be cherished and a chance to evolve. The only thing that haunts me now, is to see how the world suffers and to know that there's a simple solution. It costs nothing and asks not a thing of you but a few minutes of your day and a little practice.
Meditation doesn't belong to any one sect or religion, it is for everyone. What would you attempt in life if you knew, in your heart, that you could accomplish anything? How would you live each day if you had no fear of failure? We as humans, have forgotten how awesomely powerful we are. Through the gift of imagination and the intelligence to bring our ideas to fruition, there is literally nothing that we can't accomplish.
The problem is that there have been many roadblocks put in our path to relearning. Belief systems and patterns of thought have been put in place down through the ages as a means of controlling us. Some roadblocks are even self-imposed. These roadblocks continually loop in our heads day after day as self-limiting thoughts. By continually thinking negative internal thoughts and comparing ourselves to others, many of us become our own worst enemies. "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not as good looking or successful as they are", "This certain person doesn't like me". We can really get quite creative with our negative thoughts!
Most of us have heard of the word "institutionalized" and know its meaning but few of us realize that we have in a way become institutionalized ourselves. As unbelievable as it seems it is common for prisoners who have been incarcerated for decades, upon their release, to find themselves unable to deal with the realities of freedom. Freedom terrifies them. Some even end up breaking the law to get back into prison. These people, who at first grieve because their freedom has been taken from them, strangely begin to find security and comfort behind bars.
The same phenomena occurs everyday in this physical world. When we're young, most of us have lofty dreams and aspirations but if we're not mindful, as the ocean erodes the sand, the routines of life will slowly wear our dreams away. After a few years the dreams, if remembered at all, are pushed back into the farthest reaches of our minds. As our daily routines become etched into our brains, even though we may be miserably unhappy, we lose our ability to even imagine a different way of living. We become so dependant upon the routine itself that we forget that other options that would make us far happier exist and are just a decision away!
As you will experience, meditation is many wonderful things but first and foremost it is a process of relearning who we really are and the awesome power that each and every one of us possess. In many ways it is very sad, we are like sleeping giants that merely have to be awakened.
This modern life is like a double-edged sword. The average person enjoys a reasonable amount of leisure time and we have more information at our fingertips than any other generation in history, yet we have countless distractions. Our senses are assaulted from the time our alarm clocks wake us in the morning to the time we lie down to go to sleep at night. Almost continually television, radio, cell phones, and a plethora of other things are volleying for our valuable attention.
This makes the first step of meditation probably the most work. It is what I refer to as the "physical step" and requires you to do nothing more than quiet your mind. In a way, meditation can be viewed as us connecting to their inner-selves in much the same way that your computer connects to the internet. For us to make this "connection" we must first be able to attain a certain level of peace within ourselves.
Once the mind is still, the second step or "psychological step" begins. This is a chance to release the baggage that we've acquired throughout the years. We begin to gradually break free from all of the misconceptions and self-limiting thoughts and behaviors that we've taken on in our lives. The third and final step is the "spiritual step". This is deep meditation.
The important thing to remember is that the constant practice of meditation itself will engage a natural trinity of healing processes: physical, psychological and spiritual. Meditation must be experienced to be fully believed and it's never too late.
This article was reprinted from a 2004 issue of "EdgeLife Magazine" and was the inspiration for my beginner's guide to meditation entitled, "The Perfect Pause" which is available for $12.95 by clicking this link: http://my.lulu.com/content/103257